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Ever notice you get sad after finally reaching a hard-earned goal?
I first experienced this when I was involved with long projects in the corporate world. After they were finally completed, I found myself down and out for a few days.
It must be a reaction to the pre-deadline high intensity and long hours, I thought.
As a corporate trainer, the post-workshop crash was part of my regular work rhythm. The lows inevitably following the highs, I thought.
All reasonable conclusions. However, the same thing happened even for personal “projects”, like finally selling a house or reaching a fitness goal, even if there was no intense phase at the end.
And it’s not just me; I’ve seen it in friends or clients. What gives?
The answer lies in what makes humans happy. Studies have shown that we are happiest when we are striving toward something. But when we finally reach our goal, we have nothing to strive for, albeit temporarily; we feel sad, lost and disoriented until we get our new bearings.
So how can we prevent that reaction?
We can minimize it by being aware of our feelings, understanding they’re natural, and not resisting them. Feelings experienced without resistance diminish and disappear much faster than if we resist. (What we resist persists).
If we have a broad vision for our life and our work; an awareness of our purpose and some kind of plan for our business, we will never be without a new goal on the horizon and without a sense of direction.
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Comments
Exactly Ellene,
You’re obviously a wise woman. I’d love to see your art show if I lived in your area.
Perhaps this is why people who have many interests seem to be much happier than those with no hobbies, interests or goals. I like Ellene’s idea of having another big event lined up to look forward to.
Helen,
I have these feelings each time after an art show. This year I’m combating it by having another show lined up to look forward to and to work toward.
Ellene Breedlove Davis