Happiness

The dance between long-term and short-term goals

Too Short
Have you ever had the experience of being really busy all day and at the end of it, wondering what the heck you accomplished?
Or of getting the job done by being really focused for days/weeks/months or even years, then taking a step back at the end of it all and realizing that you would [...]

Putting Up a Good Front Isn’t So Good After All

When I was in the corporate world, putting up a good front was seen as a necessary part of the job.
Putting on your suit and your panty hose felt like putting on armor. I remember a colleague actually describing it in those terms so it’s not just poetic license.
Both men and women felt they had [...]

Getting high with weeds (This post is not what you think)

Ok, I admit it’s a cheap headline, but I couldn’t resist.
What this post is really about is how being present and aware dramatically changes the quality of our life.
And the kind of weeds I’m referring to is…garlic mustard (a plant that’s not native to this region and is very pretty but destroys the habitat if [...]

Bless everyone and everything that represents what you want

That is a Hawaiian prayer, and it is profound.
Haven’t you felt the pull of envy when you see someone who’s a resounding success doing what you’d love to do, or enjoys the kind of relationships you’ve always wished for?
It’s not just you; we’re all the same. And that’s one of the very common fears about [...]

Expect that it should be easy, and it’s likely to be

The other day, I had one of those great days where things that I have been fretting over, just got magically solved.
I wasn’t particularly masterful in my actions, but I was in a masterful mood: grateful, aware of the beauty in my environment, and not worried about small things.
Since it’s such a great mindset, it [...]

Why you need to take a second look at your level of confidence

Everyone agrees that it’s important to feel confident, both for success and your own happiness. But very few people do anything to feel more confident, unless they are sorely lacking in that area…and quite frankly even then.
I think it’s because we think there is little we can do about it; we either have it or [...]

The reason people don’t take the higher ground more often in business

I’m not talking only about blatant ethical breaches, disregard for human decency, or misuse of businesses for self-enrichment.
Even those of us who know better and have a humanitarian and/or spiritual inclination fail to act up to our ideals. For example, we might:

Hold back some information from a team member because we want to retain a [...]

It’s harder to be still than it used to be

A friend of mine recently went on a silent retreat, and I thought it was great that she is willing to devote concentrated, uninterrupted time tending to her spiritual life.
As spiritually-oriented as I am, there was part of me that thought: “I’d rather go to a workshop where I can listen and interact with people, [...]

What is your deepest wish?

That’s a really interesting question, especially if you spend some time getting behind the obvious answers:

More money
More health
More love
More freedom of time
Less hassles overall

A good way to get funny looks is to ask someone why they want more health, for example. Who wouldn’t want it; there is no explanation needed!
Beneath all of those primary, essential [...]

Do you remember what makes life worth living?

Now, ask this question to a group of people and you’ll get tons of acceptable, predictable answers.
Yet when I’ve observed people’s lives (my own included of course), I see that they often contradict in action what they stated in words.
The typical example is someone who says that he (or she) lives for his family yet [...]