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Are you feeling or thinking about the feeling?
I’m a practical person and if you’re like me, the first question you might ask is: what does it matter?
For some of us, it matters a lot because it changes how we make decisions. Let’s see if you recognize this pattern:
- You’ve been wanting to decide on something relatively important: your business niche or direction, whether to leave a job, accept a job, where to move, etc.
- You’re frustrated because you can’t seem to make a decision. You made lists of pros and cons, talked it over with others, asked for guidance…and you’re still hesitating
- Even worse, when you’re asked how you feel about it, or what you really want, you’re not sure which frustrates you even more; how can you not know?
The reason you don’t know how you feel about it is that you’re stuck going around in circles in your head. You’re thinking about the feelings which is no where near as accurate as experiencing them.
For some people, that works ok but for me and many others, it means being out of touch with our inner GPS system.
If you’ve been stuck lately, try reviving that inner guidance system first rather than spending time analyzing your options over and over again.
Ask yourself many times a day: what am I feeling and find the answer in your body. Where is it and what are the sensations? If you come up with a mental analysis of the feeling, stop and look again.
After a while, you’ll be reconnected to your feelings on a more primal level without all the rationalizing layers and that will help you identify what you really want and whether one option feels better than another.
Yes, it takes some time, but staying in your head hasn’t worked, has it, so maybe it’s time to try something different.
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Comments
Yes, good practical advice. Same thing happens with pain: Are you Feeling the pain or are you Thinking about feeling it? Deepak Chopra MD said if we pay attention to the headache it will go away. But when we Think about How Badly it hurts, we tighten up and it can even get worse.
You said, “Ask yourself many times a day: what am I feeling and find the answer in your body. Where is it and what are the sensations? If you come up with a mental analysis of the feeling, stop and look again.” Good advice!
Excellent advice! The difficulty comes when the voice of the inner self is very soft while outside voices are very loud. Thank you for the post.
Hello from beautiful Montana:
Thanks for such great insight and ideas. This really made me think and I have subscribed to the RSS feed.
Good luck in your endeavors.
Judy H. Wright aka Auntie Artichoke, family relationship author and speaker
http://www.artichokepress.com