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Your work should be profitable and meaningful; you should succeed by being yourself; and doing so shouldn’t feel lonely and hard. That’s what I’m here to help you do.
Hello there. My name is Helene Desruisseaux (”Desrusso”), and I’m a bridge between business and spirit. By spirit, I mean both Your spirit, who you really are, and Spirit, your source of inspiration and strength, whatever that is for you.
My work helps you:
- Make sure your work is compatible with your true nature; your life purpose, your unique strengths and your blind spots; your values and your loves; your pet peeves and your deepest wishes. Why? Because then you have a much higher chance of succeeding financially, and of liking your life.
- Get in touch with your deep guidance and source of strength. Why? Because you have a much easier time knowing what to do and much more confidence doing it
- Create a work environment that is genuine and respectful
- De-program past failures and beliefs that get in the way of succeeding now
- Translate your yearnings to “make a difference” into profitable business practices
- Bring quality and meaning to a hard-driving professional life
How to tell if you would benefit from working with me:
- The easiest way is to join me on my free teleseminars, where you can ask any question you’d like and/or listen to the recordings. Sign up in the top right corner and you will get all the information you need to access them.
- You can also read a free report from my “Dealing with fear” page, which gives you novel ideas and techniques you can use right away.
- Scroll down this page and read my posts. I welcome your comments by the way.
- Just ask me; feel free to send me an e-mail at the address shown at the bottom of this page
I just want to do my work and hate this stuff about selling and money
I just had a conversation that may sound really familiar to you. This fantastic, talented, big-hearted healer was saying: “I just want to do my healing and spiritual work and hate all this stuff about selling and money!”
Don’t you resonate? I sure do; even though I’m really good at helping other people with their business, I’m in the same boat; I would love to “just do my coaching and not have to worry about selling and money.” That’s one of the things I loved about the Star Trek series way back when; they never had to worry about money! People did their work and went on with their lives 
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This is a big issue for most of us and one that can’t be resolved in one article, post or conversation, but I’d like to make 5 suggestions:
- To very loosely paraphrase Buddhism, we can lessen our suffering through acceptance and detachment.
Accepting that being in business in our society means having to sell and trade money.
Accepting that everyone has money issues and that we will be on the receiving end of some of “their stuff” and detaching from the sting of what that feels like.Yes I know, easier said then done but when I remember to remember this, I’m able to take more action and feel less stress.
- One common mistake most of us make is that we are self-focused, and that’s the case even for giving practitioners or coaches who want to make a difference in the world.
You see, we love our processes: they are fascinating, soul-enhancing, health-inducing. So we talk about them and hope to convey to others the power of our tools.
Since other people aren’t interested in our tools, they tune us out especially if we use specialized lingo (which doesn’t sound specialized to us since we live it every day). I’m not only referring to health terms here, but also to coach-ese, new age-ese, or spiritual-ese.
Instead, we should relate to them in their language, talking about their problems. Now that’s a conversation that would be interesting to them and to top it off, it naturally flows into how we can help. Doesn’t that feel better than a sales pitch?
- Remembering that people want a solution to their problems also allows you to feel more welcome and more confident. Doesn’t it feel better to think that you are reaching out to lessen people’s burden, than to think that you’re selling something to them?
- The dark side of being caring is forgetting that it is their decision whether to move forward with anything including our services. Now you might think that this sentence doesn’t apply to you but let me ask you; why do you take it so personally if they reject your offer? Yes I know, it’s darn frustrating when your work isn’t being valued and you need to eat and pay your bills. Fact is, most people won’t be able or willing to hire us, which means we have to keep reaching out to many more people to find the ones who just happen to be ready to act.
- Reaching out with our message is one thing, quoting a price is another. Now that rattles our money and self-worth issues! I’m not an expert on that topic (well, I am an expert in the discomfort of it but not the solution
). I have come across a few people who do a very good job on this issue. One program that is coming up (and repeats every so often if you’re reading this post later on) is called “Transformational Fee Setting”. Isn’t that title intriguing?
Intriguing enough that I’ve signed up; I can always use help in operating on a higher ground when it comes to money, as long as what they recommend is practical in today’s world. I’d recommend you explore for yourself if this suits your needs by going to the transformational fee setting program page.
Top 3 ways self sabotage stops you
- You don’t give yourself permission to get what you want. Even if you’re finally over the “I don’t deserve” syndrome and think this doesn’t apply to you, I invite you to look again. Is there any chance you feel a duty, a responsibility to other people or to an ideal? Might you be entertaining thoughts that are quite valid but can be misused such as acknowledging that the grass isn’t always greener elsewhere, being grateful for what you do have, and being aware of economic circumstances? Let yourself want what you want; you can decide what to do about that want once you see it fully.
- You are not honest about what you want. You make goals and declare dreams that sound great but aren’t really what YOU want. So of course your subconscious isn’t very motivated to help you achieve something you don’t really care for. It might even sabotage any results to preserve your time and energy for the real thing, whenever you are finally willing to admit what it is. Save yourself that delay and aggravation and listen to your soul.
- You need to know from the start how to make things happen. Anyone who knows me knows I’m not a fan of pie-in-the-sky business management! But haven’t you experienced how being bogged down in details too early can snuff the life out of a dream or a project? You can’t anticipate all possibilities and future events anyway so give yourself time to first fully own your dream before trying to figure it all out.
These were points made by best-selling author Sonia Miller in a recent teleseminar, the first of a 3-part free series called the “Ultimate Manifestation”. Now I’ve explained them in my own words and if you are interested in the Law of Attraction and why it doesn’t always work, I recommend that you sign up for the recordings (and the next two classes).
She gave a lot of other good information in the first class alone, such as:
- 3 ways to overcome confusion, overwhelm and inertia
- 3 ways to get Universal energy on your side
Again, here’s my link to her free series.
Success, according to Will Smith
I’ve always liked his acting and his “energy vibe” but this movie introduced me to the depth of the man, his philosophy about life and success.
Now you can’t all be like Will nor should you be. It’s all about being yourself and finding your way within the laws of the universe.
The main reason people don’t leave their jobs to start a business
I would have thought it would be either because they:
- Don’t think they can afford it
- Need the benefits
- Don’t have an idea for a business
- Don’t know what to do
- Are scared to fail
- Are worried about other people’s opinions (their families’, mainly)
Those are all valid reasons. I had the delightful opportunity to interview Valerie Young, an experienced “out-of-the-box” career counselor who has helped thousands of people transition out of employment to self-employment, and I asked her what she found mainly blocked people from making that transition. Here is what she said:
The main thing that blocks people from leaving their jobs and running their own business, is not believing it’s possible to do so.
You might think that this is saying the same thing as “I can’t afford it” and it is in a way, but Valerie is pointing out that it’s the belief that stops people in their tracks, not the actual facts.
Now how she has helped her clients over the years is by brainstorming with them on the various ways they could make money, and that allows her clients to not only check the facts (is it really true they can’t make money?) but also to start believing in the possibility of entrepreneurship on their own terms.
And she is not a proponent of taking unwise risks, making me chuckle when she said; “I call my business “Changing Course”, not “Taking a flying leap”!”
Now
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What if life just sucks?
That’s what life transition coach Paula Harvey and I talked about in a recent teleseminar. Sounds lovely, doesn’t it?
Actually, it was! Let’s be realistic, sometimes life is difficult and we really feel beaten down, or we have people in our life who are going through a bad time and find it hard to believe in positive thinking, law of attraction, create your own reality, or everything-happens-just-as-it-should philosophies.
So we talked about what we can do when that happens. What works, what doesn’t.
Paula’s first suggestion was to start by noticing how you feel and what you are thinking. This is the starting point for a couple of reasons:
- When you feel down and out, it’s often too much of a leap to try to change how you think, but most of us are able to at least observe.
- Besides, when you want to change anything, the first step is always to establish your starting point. This is the big red X that says; “You are here” on the map.
The next step is to deepen your observation, to make it more specific. For example, you could ask yourself:
- What have I tried, exactly?
- What has been the connection between my circumstances and my thoughts?
I’ll give you an example to illustrate this last point.
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Why would I care about my life purpose if I can’t pay my bills?
In my last post, I talked about why finding your life purpose matters not only for your happiness, but also for your ability to succeed. Shortly after I wrote it, I got a call from a client whose son’s life is in shambles. A day later, I was talking with a friend and fellow coach and the subject came up again; “What if life just sucks?”
In the middle of our conversation, I realized that other people might want to hear our thoughts on this so I’m interviewing Paula Harvey Monday night at 8:30PM ET. (For access to the free teleseminar, provide your name and e-mail address on the top right corner).
That train of thought made me realize that it might be a good idea to add a few more thoughts on the importance of knowing your life purpose even when you’re in survival mode.
Of course, covering your basic needs takes priority, that’s common sense and consistent with our biological imperative.
But here’s the thing, when you remember your life purpose, even a crummy job you take just to make money can become more meaningful.
Let’s say that your purpose involves being on the cutting edge as an innovator, and that you’re taking “temp” office jobs to make some emergency cash. Those jobs will feel a lot less dreary if you put on your innovative hat and are on the lookout for a better way to do things. That might even lead to a better suited job or a business idea.
Here’s another example: what if someone takes the night shift
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Knowing your life purpose; why does it matter?
Not everyone thinks that “finding your life purpose” is important. Instead, they think that it is:
- Too self-absorbed and even self-indulgent
- Not a high priority, especially in difficult times
- A personal growth topic to be pursued at best in your spare time
And I can understand that point of view; I probably would have said something similar in the past. What changed my opinion is that I have personally paid a heavy price for not realizing earlier in my life what my purpose was (see my last post ). If I had known it, I would have been able to:
- Choose work (or a business) that was more consistent with my purpose. Now let me explain something; your life purpose is bigger than your career or your business. That makes sense when you think about it; don’t we all know that there’s more to life than your job? The trick though is to make sure that the work you do for so many hours a day
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Career choices made and regretted…
Wouldn’t it be great to back and relive some of your life with the wisdom you’ve accumulated? One of the things I’d definitely do differently, is get out of the career that didn’t suit me much earlier than I did. (Actually, I probably wouldn’t choose it in the first place.)
I still remember the very first day at work after having graduated with an MBA; I had a sinking feeling that went: “Oh no; this is not where I belong!” Now even in those days of long-term careers with one employer, it wasn’t unusual for recent graduates to bounce around a few times until they settled down. But my “oh no” was deeper than a reaction to the particular company I’d chosen; I was in the wrong field entirely! I didn’t know what else I should have chosen though. And I couldn’t toss out all those years of school down the drain, could I; my parents would freak out and it would be so…irresponsible!
So what did I do?
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Sensitive people can be prone to deep burnouts; what Rue Hass recommends to prevent it
Rue Hass is a well-known intuitive mentor/counsellor/coach and author of: “This Is Where I Stand; The Power And The Gift Of Being Sensitive” and we had a really interesting conversation about sensitive people:
- The special gifts they bring to business
- And the pitfalls they have to avoid
One of those pitfalls is their vulnerability to burnout especially if they are in a helping profession such as healing or coaching. Here’s how they get setup:
They have grown up feeling unsafe from over-exposure and since they are usually caring, they have a need to make the world safer and better for some people.
A sensitive person is also usually highly conscientious, reliable and loyal and finds it hard to let other people down when her attempts to “save the world” fall short, as they inevitably must.
Couple that with a few of the sensitives’ less desirable traits such as perfectionism and wish to please, and you have a perfect storm for burnout.
The way out is to turn away from following idealism and instead turn in the direction of joy and creativity. The burnout candidate must ask himself what would please him and to find that, he must get out of his head and use his body as his spiritual guide and feeling barometer.
You can hear the rest of the conversation by going to this link ; a lot was packed in less than 40 minutes (I always try to keep my teleseminars as short as possible since we’re all so busy).