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Making the world kinder by helping the kind to be more influential
That is the background motivation for the work I do.
I have another one: working with people I enjoy, respect and truly understand.
Many business people and entrepreneurs are “kind” and I love to interact with all of them. I have a special understanding of the gifts and challenges of those who are either introverts, intuitive, reserved, and/or sensitive (attuned to others’ feelings and thoughts).
If you’re wondering about the website title “Where Business Meets Spirit”, it came from a conversation with someone who described how I work, sensing a person’s true personality, wishes and spirit while always strategizing about the practicality of getting results.
The details about what I do on this page . Glad you’re here!
You don’t grow out of being sensitive
A couple of days ago I was giving a communications workshop at a Courthouse for its employees and had a great conversation with one of the participants afterward. Very often, people prefer to talk to me in private after the workshop because they worry about revealing too much if they ask what’s really on their mind.
She asked me about what to do when put on a team with people who aren’t exactly team players and I gave her my take on her specific situation. She was relieved to get a couple of strategies she was comfortable using, then said: “I just wish I wasn’t so sensitive about all of this. I’m 52 years old; you’d think I would have grown out of this by now”.
Like most people, she thought of sensitivity as a character default that she could overcome and was beating herself up over her perceived weakness when she was the one who made these ill-matched, badly-conceived teams work by being attuned to everyone’s needs and the bridge between blunt personalities. Not only that, people around her probably didn’t give her credit for making it all work and certainly didn’t see how stressful she found being constantly the mediator between ruffled peacock feathers (lots of strutting going on in that office!)
My heart went out to her, another undervalued sensitive angel in the workplace and I was glad to be a some help. Here were a couple of my recommendations:
- To set her boundaries very early before she felt emotional about being taken advantage of, and to do so with as much matter-of-fact tone as she can, coupled with humor if she worried about their reaction.
- To remind herself throughout the day to depersonalize their behavior. They weren’t targeting her, they were insensitive clods with everyone and everything. I’m not saying she should let herself be abused, just that she shouldn’t read into their actions that they thought she was inferior and use her energy to set the necessary boundaries.
After all these years, it still floors me that so many people don’t get that how they treat someone matters!
A magical dose of beauty and wonder
I don’t know about you, but I can get totally immersed in the “doing” of life (even stressed sometimes), spending hours at the computer dealing with a deluge of information or with pesky administrative issues. (The actual coaching and training is usually magical though).
Or I feel sad or worried for loved ones’ plight or for the ills of the world.
Inspiring music is always uplifting for me as is my love of nature and animals and I found this video that combines one of Bruce Mitchell’s beautiful songs from his recent CD (New Earth Goddess.net) with the most amazing nature scenes! Reduce your stress; enjoy true beauty!
Your work should be profitable and meaningful; you should succeed by being yourself; and doing so shouldn’t feel lonely and hard. That’s what I’m here to help you do.
Hello there. My name is Helene Desruisseaux (“Desrusso”), and I’m a bridge between business and spirit. By spirit, I mean both Your spirit, who you really are, and Spirit, your source of inspiration and strength, whatever that is for you.
My work helps you:
- Make sure your work is compatible with your true nature; your life purpose, your unique strengths and your blind spots; your values and your loves; your pet peeves and your deepest wishes. Why? Because then you have a much higher chance of succeeding financially, and of liking your life.
- Get in touch with your deep guidance and source of strength. Why? Because you have a much easier time knowing what to do and much more confidence doing it
- Create a work environment that is genuine and respectful
- De-program past failures and beliefs that get in the way of succeeding now
- Translate your yearnings to “make a difference” into profitable business practices
- Bring quality and meaning to a hard-driving professional life
How to tell if you would benefit from working with me:
- The easiest way is to join me on my free teleseminars, where you can ask any question you’d like and/or listen to the recordings. Sign up in the top right corner and you will get all the information you need to access them.
- You can also read a free report from my “Dealing with fear” page, which gives you novel ideas and techniques you can use right away.
- Scroll down this page and read my posts. I welcome your comments by the way.
- Just ask me; feel free to send me an e-mail at the address shown at the bottom of this page
Why would knowing your purpose change the world?
Most people think that:
- Knowing your purpose is something that is nice, but not essential.
- Instead of navel gazing, we would be better off picking a vision and a goal and just do it!
- Purpose talk often sounds like splitting hairs, especially when it talks about improving various aspects of our character (e.g. being more compassionate, or more loving)
- A lot of it feels rather vague (I’m meant to integrate the masculine and the feminine)
- And self-absorbed
Doesn’t sound like world-changing stuff, does it?
Well, it is, and here’s why.
When you are on purpose, everything makes more sense. You see how your past story contributes to your growth.
And contrary to the accusation that purpose work makes you self absorbed, you are more forgiving and generous because you don’t want to sweat the small stuff. You also know that others have a different purpose than you which may create a different point of view…and that’s ok; you can live and let live.
One of my mentors, Tim Kelley is the CEO of True Purpose Coaching and he’s been working with heads of corporations and heads of state, helping them find their personal and their organizational purpose, knowing that doing so will help create a better world.
Why?
The live and let live attitude of someone on purpose applies to organizations as well. Not only that, the process he uses to find your purpose puts you in touch with your deepest Divine guidance, and that guidance will not direct you to act in a way that will harm others.
Sound impossible or too idealistic; what do you think?
If you’re not reading this blog post at a later date, you might be interested in hearing Tim talk about the state of the world and what can be done. He is giving a free talk March 1st at 3PM ET. Here is the link to get the telephone number.
The purpose of our life according to the Dalai Lama
Some of us look long and hard for our life purpose, feeling something is missing in our work as well as our life overall.
I obviously believe in the power of finding our purpose since I do that kind of work in several ways.
In this video, you’ll hear the Dalai Lama’s belief about the purpose of life.
I agree with him fully…and feel that in addition to that general purpose, we can narrow down our purpose to something more unique to our own spirit.
A really fun video that will inspire you to be yourself
I just saw a video that pulled my heart strings because it spoke to two of my top values:
- My love of animals
- The fact that we need to be who we are rather than try to mold ourselves into what we “should” be, and that’s for our own happiness and because we’ll be much more successful that way.
It’s not possible to put the video on my site but you’ll see it if you click on this link: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BGODurRfVv4 .
You won’t regret taking the time! Actually you should do it especially if you feel overwhelmed right now.
You’ll take a breath, sink into yourself and reduce your overwhelm either by changing what you do or what you think.
Let me know what you think of it!
I just want to do my work and hate this stuff about selling and money
I just had a conversation that may sound really familiar to you. This fantastic, talented, big-hearted healer was saying: “I just want to do my healing and spiritual work and hate all this stuff about selling and money!”
Don’t you resonate? I sure do; even though I’m really good at helping other people with their business, I’m in the same boat; I would love to “just do my coaching and not have to worry about selling and money.” That’s one of the things I loved about the Star Trek series way back when; they never had to worry about money! People did their work and went on with their lives 
.
This is a big issue for most of us and one that can’t be resolved in one article, post or conversation, but I’d like to make 5 suggestions:
- To very loosely paraphrase Buddhism, we can lessen our suffering through acceptance and detachment.
Accepting that being in business in our society means having to sell and trade money.
Accepting that everyone has money issues and that we will be on the receiving end of some of “their stuff” and detaching from the sting of what that feels like.Yes I know, easier said then done but when I remember to remember this, I’m able to take more action and feel less stress.
- One common mistake most of us make is that we are self-focused, and that’s the case even for giving practitioners or coaches who want to make a difference in the world.
You see, we love our processes: they are fascinating, soul-enhancing, health-inducing. So we talk about them and hope to convey to others the power of our tools.
Since other people aren’t interested in our tools, they tune us out especially if we use specialized lingo (which doesn’t sound specialized to us since we live it every day). I’m not only referring to health terms here, but also to coach-ese, new age-ese, or spiritual-ese.
Instead, we should relate to them in their language, talking about their problems. Now that’s a conversation that would be interesting to them and to top it off, it naturally flows into how we can help. Doesn’t that feel better than a sales pitch?
- Remembering that people want a solution to their problems also allows you to feel more welcome and more confident. Doesn’t it feel better to think that you are reaching out to lessen people’s burden, than to think that you’re selling something to them?
- The dark side of being caring is forgetting that it is their decision whether to move forward with anything including our services. Now you might think that this sentence doesn’t apply to you but let me ask you; why do you take it so personally if they reject your offer? Yes I know, it’s darn frustrating when your work isn’t being valued and you need to eat and pay your bills. Fact is, most people won’t be able or willing to hire us, which means we have to keep reaching out to many more people to find the ones who just happen to be ready to act.
- Reaching out with our message is one thing, quoting a price is another. Now that rattles our money and self-worth issues! I’m not an expert on that topic (well, I am an expert in the discomfort of it but not the solution
). I have come across a few people who do a very good job on this issue. One program that is coming up (and repeats every so often if you’re reading this post later on) is called “Transformational Fee Setting”. Isn’t that title intriguing?
Intriguing enough that I’ve signed up; I can always use help in operating on a higher ground when it comes to money, as long as what they recommend is practical in today’s world. I’d recommend you explore for yourself if this suits your needs by going to the transformational fee setting program page.
Top 3 ways self sabotage stops you
- You don’t give yourself permission to get what you want. Even if you’re finally over the “I don’t deserve” syndrome and think this doesn’t apply to you, I invite you to look again. Is there any chance you feel a duty, a responsibility to other people or to an ideal? Might you be entertaining thoughts that are quite valid but can be misused such as acknowledging that the grass isn’t always greener elsewhere, being grateful for what you do have, and being aware of economic circumstances? Let yourself want what you want; you can decide what to do about that want once you see it fully.
- You are not honest about what you want. You make goals and declare dreams that sound great but aren’t really what YOU want. So of course your subconscious isn’t very motivated to help you achieve something you don’t really care for. It might even sabotage any results to preserve your time and energy for the real thing, whenever you are finally willing to admit what it is. Save yourself that delay and aggravation and listen to your soul.
- You need to know from the start how to make things happen. Anyone who knows me knows I’m not a fan of pie-in-the-sky business management! But haven’t you experienced how being bogged down in details too early can snuff the life out of a dream or a project? You can’t anticipate all possibilities and future events anyway so give yourself time to first fully own your dream before trying to figure it all out.
These were points made by best-selling author Sonia Miller in a recent teleseminar, the first of a 3-part free series called the “Ultimate Manifestation”. Now I’ve explained them in my own words and if you are interested in the Law of Attraction and why it doesn’t always work, I recommend that you sign up for the recordings (and the next two classes).
She gave a lot of other good information in the first class alone, such as:
- 3 ways to overcome confusion, overwhelm and inertia
- 3 ways to get Universal energy on your side
Again, here’s my link to her free series.
Success, according to Will Smith
I’ve always liked his acting and his “energy vibe” but this movie introduced me to the depth of the man, his philosophy about life and success.
Now you can’t all be like Will nor should you be. It’s all about being yourself and finding your way within the laws of the universe.